Things You Need to Do to Heal Your Life

• You must give yourself permission to want what you really want. There is no way around this. Whether it’s a romantic partner, a better job, some more money, recognition for your work, see it and accept it, even if you think society says it means you’re shallow or broken or don’t “love yourself” enough.
•  Be grateful for your discomfort. The sad and weird thing is that happy people are complacent. Feeling uncomfortable is the signal that you’re on the precipice of something new, and better, but you must take action.
• “Irrational anxiety” is usually cured by doing very practical things. The nonsensical things you worry about are usually aggrandized projections of real concerns that you’re not dealing with.
• Make a conscious effort to connect and reconnect with the people you already have in your life — even if it’s just one person you trust and connect with. This will begin to re-form healthy emotional attachments. It’s not weak to need love.
• You will need to figure out how to live in the moment, even if that seems boring, impossible, terrifying or all three. Anxiety is the warning sign that we’re too much in the past or the future - and being there is affecting how we make choices in the present.
•  You will need to take action on the things that are holding you back from pursuing the things you actually want. As Cheryl Strayed says, “Real change happens on the level of the gesture. It’s one person doing one thing differently than they did before.
• You can change how you feel. This is something you must remember. It’s as simple as: “I want to feel differently about this, so I am going to focus on a different aspect of it.
• The problem is not the problem. The problem is how you think about the problem. Your internal guidance system is sounding off right now because something isn’t right. This doesn’t mean you’re barreling toward a life of perpetual, unescapable suffering. It means somewhere deep down, you know there’s another way — a better way — to live. It means you know what you want, even if you’re scared of it.